Mar 11

New Direction

So now that I got all my anger in some sort of management, I wanted to start a new direction for the new year new! I know today is the first day of Spring, what can I say I am a late bloomer. For this year and the past 10 years of my life I have always made a New Years resolution to lose weight and be healthier but never stuck with it. This time I finally have come to realize like many Americans that every thing I put in my mouth has to be accounted for by counting calories. This does not come so easy for me because I do consider my self a foodie, there are many frustration and obstacles ahead of me as you can imagine. With all the blend recipes, and small portions that leave the foodies screaming for help, I wanted to start blogging about creative recipes. Sharing with those out there struggling with bad food just like me!

stay tuned for more – happy Spring!

Dec 10

Do the gays make you nervous

like they make me? Soon I will par-take in a lovely reunion/vacation with close friends and I realize that I am friends with all but one on FB. The one you might have guess is gay. It’s not that being gay is the problem, that is far from the truth, its me! But admit it, we all have gay friends with fabulous lives, they are all cultured, well read and always fashionable (even if they’re, well … “rounded” like the infamous André Leon Talley.)


Marc-ie Marc workout

Some of the famous queers that come to mind, just to give you an example – Marc Jacob, Tim Gunn, Dale Levitsk, David Sedaris, Ellen Degeneres, Korean Gay Military activist Dan Choi, the list goes on. Foodies, fashionistas, comedians to activists. It’s all in my face, I know I am straight, boring and not always up to date when it comes to fashion. I get it! So this is my dilemma, do I friend my friend on FB? This will mean that he will have access to all my boring updates, and pictures 24-7. Drama-queen you say, yes guilty, but you don’t understand this friend has over three hundred friends, and yes he will not even have time to take a peek at the straight life, but even the chance of him seeing my update makes me breakout in hives.

“IF THEY MADE IT”, yes that would be me!

Dec 10

Merry Christmas, now go clean your car!

Nothing says I love you like a Deluxe Car Wash Bucket for $89.99.

I was looking for a nice gift basket to send my family back to the West Coast, since I’ll be getting a little RR without them. And as all gift baskets go they are all more or the same, so I decided to plug in unique gift baskets on the google search – and no shit this was the first link that was on the 1st page!

But the kicker is that they’ve been featured by all the top TV gurus like Oprah. YeaH! no shit.
Merry Christmas Family, now please go wash your car, cause I think it’s filthy.

Dec 10


Recently I fell in love with a pair of old men shoes…

and now there is a new love in my life.

My new found love are a pair of HOT Rosegold oakley boots, that have an optional zip flap. I love them with socks (or without), jeans, dresses or leggings. just can’t get enough of them and also very reminiscent of the bongo jeans era , now only if I can find that perfect pair of jeans.

Dec 10

Are you looking at me? wait, keep looking, just don’t let me see you looking.

Funny things on the net. I keep gawking at these 12 year old girls… no wait that came out wrong, I follow young ladies of a certain age… no still sounds off. Right, like i was saying funny things on the web, I keep updates on the latest trends with ladies of the world wide web. The fashion blogs keep me most entertained with their fun looks and even funner expressions of “look at me!”

To be honest, today was the first time I have been to this blog, and it rocks. All the Parisian style looks, and the blogger with the oh so French look, “We are French and you are not… how sad”, i love it!

Also a new site I hit up today, and no clue as to what the fuck she’s going for, I mean maybe it’s like SHITIWANTTOWEAR.com – just sayin.


Rookie, wise old lady trapped in a young girls body is more like it. But in my eyes Tavi is a fashion savant and has more knowledge about fashion then I will ever have in my life time. I’ve been following her career since she was 2 years old.


Once I was told that I reminded him of her in me, I think he was blind too. But she has the perfect, “I see you, but don’t look at me…okay maybe now”, look.

Nov 10

my dream come true

Last year, Kenneth and I hosted our very first Thanksgiving in our new condo that we have just moved into, and before we started our feast my man made a toast. It was 7 little words that made me laugh and question at the same time. But looking back at it, I sort of enjoyed those words that will forever be part of my Thanksgiving day tradition.

“Thanks for making Young’s dreams come true!” as Kenneth raised his mug with cheap white wine along with 14 other guests (also with their mixed matched glasses) toasted to me the hostess with the most-est, sure I know what you’re thinking Young’s dreams are quite simple and quaint and I would also agree with you about a year ago, but looking back it wasn’t always so easy to come by.

When I was growing up my parents worked everyday, including Thanksgiving and Christmas, so growing up in the States during the holidays were lonely to say the least. At first it was fun getting time off from school, watching tv, eating junk food while sleeping was optional. As I got older and grew to understand American culture as a immigrant kid, I long for those fights with families, over eating and Black-Friday. This I came to understand was how our society worked, yell at each other then calm down with some turkey and mash, a little nap and the whole family is off shopping for one another. Now who wants to be part of that, I admit it’s a little dysfunctional but I want that – no I need that to be part of my life.

And looking back I tried to create some of that magical Thanksgiving day-ness when I was 15, I went to the supermarket bought myself a turkey, caned cranberries, and some yams. I had planned it so my parents would come during their break, after lunch but before dinner just enough to sit and have a fast meal. As the bird was roasting in the oven, I prepped the yams and opened up a can of jellied cranberries, 5 minutes later my sides dishes were done, checked on the bird still pale. No problem I have the Macy’s thanksgiving day parade to watch, hours later check the bird and I see some color “tan” to be more accurate. Go for a walk to Longs Drugs for a snack to get me through hunger pang. Finally hours later set the table and wait.

2 o’clock rolls around and I’m the only one at the table, 2:15 and finally my brother shows up and we sit at the table hoping that someone would show up. 2:45 comes around and I tell my brother let’s eat. As he goes for the yams, I yell, “wait let’s say what we’re thankful for”, trying to mimic those sitcom shows, and he like the sweet kid he is oblige. As I drift off into my own world my brother says couple of lines of thanks, I couldn’t help it I was defeated. Ironically this supposed cornucopia of food was to be enjoyed, savored but in reality it took my brother less then 5 min to consume. That was the moment that shaped my Thanksgiving days for most of my life till last year, when my husband reminded me of what good things to come, and what good families and friends we should be thankful for. My parents didn’t make it to my dinner date some 16 years ago but, they did get to enjoy it the day after Thanksgiving and I got to see the joy on their faces as I told them how I went about making the turkey as I’m sure they saw the joy in me spending time with them.

Even though my Thanksgiving day meal wasn’t like the Cosby’s, or the Keanton’s I was happy spending time with my family on a non-turkey day, and for this Thanksgiving day I think some of my dreams are going to come true. Having quality time with friends, drinking too much wine and wearing a little black on Friday.

On a side note for all those new immigrants or not so new, as long as you spend some time with people you care bout that’s all that matter, hell if you got pets or virtual girl friend /boy friend that works as well.

Happy Turkey Day Everyone and to all a Good Night!

Nov 10

PB and J

Here is a random thought to those who are skinheads out in the world along with bigots and racists, do you eat PB & J aka peanut butter and jelly sandwich? An iconic and true American sandwich. I ask you if you ever had a J sandwich- of course not a PB and J is nothing without the PB. Its like butter without popped corn or meatballs with out grandma’s gravy. If they only knew what this world be like without George Washington Carver who, popularized peanut butter ( technically peanut butter has existed since the time of the Aztecs ). Or the the Chinese for their noodles “… shaping flour into noodles and boiling them for the plate at least 2,000 years before the practice first emerged in Italy.” WIKI
I ask you what is life without peanut noodles from Chinatown? That is no life that I want to live, and if you like most enjoy these 2 things I would reevaluate the white hooded mask or the clean shaven head.

life without peanut noodles?!?!?!?&*%#

Now a song from my Past! enjoy!
(En Vogue)
Why oh why must it be this way?
Before you can read me you gotta
Learn how to see me, I said
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don’t be so shallow
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don’t be so shallow
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don’t be so shallow
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don’t be so shallow
Free your mind

En Vogue

Nov 10

Kimchi Challenge

Couple of days ago I came home from a trip to Poland, I met a wonderful new friend, Dorota. We had a great time chatting it up about Poland, Korea and Kimchi, she asked if I made any myself, and not to her surprise I replied no. She met many wonderful people in Korea while doing a residency in Korea and has fallen in love with my culture. Needless to say I was a bit embarrassed by the fact that this Polish women knew how to make Kimchi, so once I got home all I could think about was Kimchi. While googling KimChi I found a blog that goes by the name Maangchi, a cute little Korean lady that blog about Korean culture, life, but mostly focuses on Traditional Korean recipes.

With the jet lag I gained hours to start my mission, the entire recipe took me 2-3 hours including prep and clean up. I’m not sure when my next batch will be I have plenty to share – no really I don’t know what to do with all these jars/Tupperware.

For more info and recipes go to: http://shitiwanttosay.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=46&action=edithttp://www.maangchi.com/recipe/easy-kimchi

Nov 10

“Just because you’re parents, doesn’t mean you have to be lame.” AKA “Just because you’re born this way, you shouldn’t stay this way”

It’s not your fault kid, you can’t help it if your asshole parents want to make you into a cash cow and be the next Justin Beaver. Or the fact that the money hungry ADmen who thought it would be cute to make you into a miniature hipster asshole. I mean come on do you really believe hard working people, working 2 jobs to put food on the table -facing job-loss/recession want a little blond snot nose kid telling them that they are not cool enough if they don’t drive this Toyota Highlander? It’s not your fault that you where born with deliriously beautiful curly blond hair and are at an age where your body length and size is desired by cougars like Calista Flockhart and Demi Moore. But it’s your super delivery that scares me more so than your parents or the Madmen, it’s your cunning acting abilities as a child star that makes me want to yell at my nice flat-screen. Could you have been more annoying in your face, “you want to be me but your not” guy? It’s not to late, just because your parents made you this way, doesn’t mean you have to keep acting like an ass, there is hope for you yet, I mean people will still care bout you till you turn 18, then they’ll just lose interest.

*** okay, okay I retract some of my asshole statements, the kid is cute and really the problem is with Toyota by making this nonsense ad. Kid if you are reading this now you’re not half bad and who knows maybe your be the next Brad Pitt, well maybe the next Keanu Reeves.

more on this…



Oct 10

Easy Chicken Pate


1 lbs of chicken liver (clean)

1 tablespoon of chopped sage

1 clove of garlic (minced)

1 whole onion (chopped)

3 tablespoon of butter

salt / pepper to taste

Melt butter in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Stir in garlic, onion and chicken livers. Reduce heat to low, and simmer approximately 10 minutes, until chicken livers are tender and no longer pink.

Place chicken liver mixture in a food processor with salt and pepper. Blend until smooth. Transfer to a medium bowl, cover and chill in the refrigerator approximately 2 hours before serving.